
“Man is more weak than strong” – a favorite excuse of those, who can’t resist temptations, runs away from difficult, but important things and promises already for the hundredth time that from Monday will become a different person.
If you are familiar with this situation, you already know that your Achilles’ heel is a willpower.
It’s an important part of our personality that is able to mobilize internal resources for the implementation of our goals.
Thanks to self-control, we are able to ignore the immediate desires and endure boring and hard work, knowing that in the future we will receive a worthy reward.
If you compare willpower with muscle, it’s fair to say: from regular training it will only get stronger, but from idleness – completely weakened. That’s why we are starting the training.
1.Actually, why would I need that?
Really, why should I exert myself? We suggest from the beginning to deal with the motivation: “Why am I doing this?” The clearer the target, the more confident you will be able to move towards it.
The main thing is not to substitute your desires with others’ desires. “I want to learn how to drive because I dream of traveling in Europe” (not to let my husband drink at a party).
Be sure to remember about your motives and future results, when you are tempted to give up or say “well, I didn’t want to.”
2.Don’t seduce me
The next step is to check everything around you. We break our promises much faster if there are temptations everywhere. Help your willpower yourself: lose weight – remove a vase with candies from the table; write a complex report – turn off the social networks. By the way, it also applies to people around you: if you quit smoking, don’t go to work with your colleagues who smoke.
3.The elephant should be eaten piece by pieces.
For one day willpower will not be “pumped up”, but to get a bad mood and the loss of strength is quite real. Set tiny but daily goals, the volume of which you will increase day by day. If you decide to give up sweets, don’t swear that “never again!” You’ll not probably resist in a couple of days. But if gradually – today three candies, not five, tomorrow two, etc. – the chances of success will increase many times.
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