Toxicity is a common term. But what is hidden behind it and how to understand that the one with whom you communicate is poisonous? Here’s a list of signs.
1. Disregard for borders
Unsolicited advice and criticism (you, for example, didn’t show interest in the opinion of a person about your new hairstyle, and it caught up with you in the format of “oh, it used to be better”, or “it doesn’t suite you”, “well, it’s a stupidity to do like this with yourself”), touching (in the event that in the format of your communication they are not accepted), insults, sarcasm, and all these “I don’t want to offend you, but …”, using your stuff without permission, reading chatting, dairy. If this happens regularly and conversations, that you can’t be treated like this, don’t produce results, unfortunately, in front of you – a toxic person and it would be better to avoid him.
Open: rude touches, callings, punches and slaps, threats, shouting, intimidation, damaging your belongings.
Passive: silent games, demonstrative grievances, humiliation under the sauce “I wish you well.”
Alcoholism, drugs, gambling, adrenaline entertainment without safety, a tendency to run into conflicts. All these signs demonstrate that a person deals really with himself, which means that he will make your existence unbearable.
You are told from “best motives” and “good intentions” what to do, how to dress, with whom to communicate, what to eat, where to work, etc. And if you try to do in your own way, resentment start, ignoring, attempts to do everything instead of you.
Everybody is bad, stupid, horrible, does the wrong thing, doesn’t understand anything. And only one of our friend – well done.
Endless whining, “what should I do” on any occasion, refusing to take care of oneself “I somehow so”, leaving responsibility, demonstrating helplessness, reminding of my contribution “I am for you…”, suffering, suffering, suffering on any occasion and without.
What you feel when you’re in a contact with a person is a very important indicator. As a rule, communicating with toxic people we feel: inadequate guilt (did nothing wrong, but somehow don’t feel right), shame, fear. These feelings are a signal that you should look more closely at the person next to you.