“Ignites like a match”, “fountain of emotions”, “a hair’s breadth away from laugh to tears” – is that what people say about you? If yes, then to them you’re a person with heightened emotional sensitivity. That person whose leap from Spartan calm to Shakespearean passions can take only a few seconds.
On the one hand, this is not so bad, as it speaks of the sincerity and strength of your feelings, but, on the other hand, it’s a sign that your nervous system is constantly wearing itself out. It’s difficult for you to get out of strong emotional states, which leads to a decrease in concentration, weakening of memory, and general distraction.
At the same time, your emotional outbursts cause inconvenience to others: it’s difficult for them to “predict” your response and they have to be in suspense all the time whilst communicating with you. At the same time, such behavioral patterns can harm not only your personal life, but also,s your career: the bosses will most likely entrust the most complex and interesting projects to an emotionally balanced employee, because such a person is usually perceived as a more reliable person.
There’s a fair question here: where am I getting this from?
And once again, let’s take a look at your childhood…
Alice was a cheerful and noisy child; they call kids like that “tomboys” or “dynamos”. For her parents, university teachers, strict and restrained people, their daughter was a total punishment. Evenings were needed to check students’ work and, preferably, in silence; therefore, they always shushed Alice, snapped at her and punished her for noisy games and loud laughter. The daughter got angry, acted out, demanded attention and liberties, but the parents had their own views on how a child should behave.
Now Alice is a grown woman but repressed and once-pushed-out childhood emotions are still poisoning her life and that of those around her. She is unable to build relationships with men, as they are quickly bored with her sudden flashes of love and tenderness, then resentment and anger. There are also problems at work: colleagues try to communicate less with Alice, knowing that she can cry for a trivial reason, and the boss doesn’t send her on business trips abroad, saying, “well, you are a vulnerable girl, and a long trip is a job for brave people.”
The rejected childhood feelings and resentment towards parents lead to the fact that today, your “emotional swing” constantly adds problems to your personal and social life.
Another reason for such outbreaks is weak emotional intelligence. This is a state where you can barely recognize your feelings, don’t know what emotions you’re experiencing at the moment, and the most difficult thing is that you don’t understand where they’re coming from and how to present them to the surrounding people in a sustainable manner..
If you recognize yourself in our descriptions, and you wish to work on your heightened emotionality in order to remove the burden of the problems that it causes, then we have something interesting for you.
\We present to you a selection of hobbies that will help you to not only have a good time, but also to smooth out your emotional profile, give you an opportunity to safely “discharge”, and also teach you how to manage your inner states.
The livelier the dance, the more passion you put into it, the more energy will be spent not on destruction, but on creating emotional and sensual steps: samba, Cha Cha Cha, rumba, tango, flamenco, etc.
Channel the power of your experiences into the power of your voice – it’s a unique opportunity to learn how to breathe correctly, relax muscle clamps in the face, neck and chest and live out your strong emotions with the help of your favorite song.
Theater is a great way to learn and improve your inner world. By getting used to a role, you learn to better understand other people, their experiences, and develop your emotional intelligence.
Historical re-enactments, cosplay
These hobbies are somewhat similar to theater, except you have more opportunities to use your imagination and creative skills.
Archery, crossbow, rifle, etc. There’s an expression “a sniper is a personality”. To be exact: endurance, patience, willpower, self-discipline. Why don’t you develop these skills?
Being with our furry friends is always beneficial, and when it comes to horses, especially so. In order to control the animal, you have to feel your body well, as well as understand your “subordinate’s” behavior. Hippotherapy is unique: communication with a horse calms, drives away gloomy thoughts and teaches to empathize.